Please I am in urgent need of your advice now.
Pls ignore my grammatical errors…
Here is the story:-
I have a friend named Victor, (real name) a Ghanain..
We are close friends and we are about doing some business together.
Before I present the real deal now, let me highlight one mistake he made that would have ended our friendship but I ignored it..
It was way back 2014..
We newly became friends then..and coincidentally there was a Muslim girl I feel in love with, and we starting dating.
One day I was not around when my (Victor) friend came to meet this Muslim girl (my girl) and tried to kiss her.
She was a flashy girl and very tempting no doubt, but he almost broke the brother code by trying to do that to my girl.
When my girl (now ex) told me, I was angry but decided not to ask him and it died like that.
Sadly, on religious ground I was not allowed to marry the girl so we went our separate ways, but I found it difficult to love again because I loved that girl deeply. So I relocated to another city. Kumasi.
Fast forward to 2020.. About 2 months ago my friend Victor invited me to come down to Accra for some business discussion.
So I came and I met his wife’s sister (real name Abigail) who now lives with them.
Sincerely I felt something for her and told my friend strait away that I like Abigail, and I would love to know her more with marriage in view.
I also spoke to his wife Abigail sister about how I felt for her sis but I needed their consent before I approach Abigail.
Consents were given by both of them and after few weeks I proposed to Abigail and she asked me to hold on, that she is going to formally inform her sis and the husband because she lives with them, and I quite understand.
About 2 weeks on Abigail accepted my proposal and I was happy, but went ahead to ask why she accepted and she said she has been hearing good things about me, and beside I am handsome (lol), pardon me I was just quoting her..
So we starting dating.
So 2 days ago I had some discussion with my friend victor (Abigail sis husband).
This time this discussion was basically about some issues he’s been having with his wife, how he treats his wife badly lately, does not eat at home or spend time with the wife. So I spoke to him about why he should change and allow peace to reign in the house. As I was discussing with him, he then chipped in some issue about me and Abigail.
HE SAID AS HIS FRIEND HE WON’T ENCOURAGE ME TO ENTER THE WIFE FAMILY. THAT HE HAS BEEN IN THE FAMILY AND HE’S BEEN FIGHTING SOME SPIRITUAL BATTLE FROM THE FAMILY..
So I thanked him, I said to him that I will try to pray about it. That I know many family have some spiritual battles, but I will try and fight the battle….
Here I am somehow confused.. Does he genuinely mean well for me? or he just does not want me to marry this beautiful girl?
Less I forget. He also stopped me from introducing this girl into a certain business that would give her some financial freedom..
I am thinking he does not want the best for either me or the girls family….
And given how he speaks about his wife, I think he is heading in the direction of divorce, and maybe he does not want me to enter the family as that may cause some barrier……
All this are just my opinion given how things are playing out….
Please I need your suggestion.
I will be in the commentsection.